How To Use A Cord Cutting Ritual For Beginner Witches

Cord cutting is a powerful tool and can absolutely help you to move through these emotions, to let go of toxic relationships, people, and situations that are no longer serving you and in this blog post I am going to teach you exactly what you need to know to perform a cord cutting for the first time even if you have absolutely no experience. This is cord cutting for beginners. So if that sounds good to you, let’s dive right in.

What Is Cord Cutting & When Should You Use It

Before we get to actually casting the spell, doing our cord cutting, we need to know why we are doing it and what we can actually expect to come out of it. Having appropriate expectations and knowing what it is that you’re trying to do will make your spell work so much more effective. So please, do not skip past this section!

First things first, a cord cutting will not make you completely forget your ex, it will not make it so that they can never contact you again, and it will not make it so that you never feel emotions about the situation that you’re trying to cut cords with. That is not the point, and I know that is a disappointment to a lot of you, and if you really want magic that is going to make it so you’re not feeling emotions, I recommend you read this post about the dangers of suppressing your emotions with magic >>

Cord cutting is a symbolic act to sever the energetic bonds between you and whatever you are trying to release. Whether that’s abusive family members, past relationships, toxic people, or your own experiences that you’re ready to heal and move on from. It doesn’t change what happened in the past, it doesn’t change your memories of them, it doesn’t change your emotions about them. What it does is it removes this energetic tie that is keeping you stuck in a loop emotionally.

A lot of times, when we are going through a significant amount of grief or loss or heartbreak, we end up stuck going in circles feeling the same emotions over and over and over and over, and it seems like it’s not going anywhere. It’s not processing, it’s not moving, it’s not getting any better. With a cord cutting, we are creating the energetic space that we need so that this other person cannot energetically keep us in this holding pattern anymore. You are releasing the energetic cords that are keeping you trapped. You will still have to process the negative emotions, but after a cord cutting, when you try to process the emotions, you will actually be able to get somewhere.

This removes any power the other person has over you, and it gives you the space and freedom on an energetic and psychic level to be able to truly move on, which is what we all want. Make sure that if you are doing a cord cutting, you have reasonable expectations. Again, we are not banishing the person, we are not binding them so they can never contact you again, we are making it so that you have the energetic and psychic space necessary to heal and move on. I have other posts about banishing and binding spells and they combine beautifully with cord cutting if that’s what you need.

Cord cuttings are obviously amazing when you have gone through a big breakup and you need space from that, but they can also be an incredibly useful spiritual practice in any kind of loss, or any kind of situation where you have lost some of your power. This might be after you’ve quit a bad job, after a fallout with friends, or when you’ve moved away from a place that was no good for you. You can even use a cord cutting for something like removing the power of an addiction, cutting the cord between you and the addiction so that you can get the space to really recover. Again, it is not an instant fix, but it gives you the space to heal. It removes a lot of the power that this negative energy holds over you.

You want to use cord cutting anywhere in your life where you want to remove the power that some external thing or person has over you.

A Simple Cord Cutting Ritual

Now let’s do a simple but effective cord cutting ritual!

You Will Need:

• One black candle & one white (you can use chime candles or larger candles as desired)
• Candle holders
• Matches
• String or twine (natural material like cotton or jute)
• Salt
• Fireproof & well ventilated workspace
• A pen & 2 slips of paper
• A carving tool
• Ritual oil (olive oil or an appropriate magical oil)

We will begin by creating two petition papers, one for what you are releasing or banishing, and one for what you are drawing in. The benefit of this kind of cord cutting is that rather than simply trying to eject something from your life, you are filling the void that it will leave. Often, things like cord cutting and banishing will only be partially effective because we do not take the time to replace that energetic presence in our lives with something else, allowing the old energy to reattach itself to us.

First, take a piece of paper and write a petition for what you are banishing. You want to write this in first person present. For example, “I banish the spirits of misfortune, poverty, and loss from my life.” Or alternatively, you could banish your ex with something like, “I banish John Doe from my life. No more may his energy draw upon mine. No more may he think of me, contact me, or take up space in my mind.” Take a moment now to think about what you want to rid yourself of and to write your first petition paper.

Now we are going to write our second petition. This is for what you want to draw in, we’re going to create new cords to something more constructive. What are you replacing this thing that you’re banishing with? For example, if you are cutting cords with an ex lover, you might use a petition like “I call in the deepest self love and respect for myself. May I always know my worth and be able to surround myself with those who love and respect me in kind.” Or if you are banishing the spirits of misfortune and poverty, you might write a petition such as “I call in the spirits of good fortune, prosperity, and abundance. May my life overflow with all of the money, opportunity, and joy that I desire.” Take some time now to write your petition for what it is that you are drawing into your life.

Now, I want you to take your two candles, and you’re going to carve each candle with the name of the thing you are either releasing or calling in. Start with the black ritual candle. If you are releasing a person, carve the person’s name into the candle. If you are releasing something like a bad habit or misfortune, you can simply carve that into the candle. When you’re done carving your candle, dress the black candle with oil, starting from the base and moving up toward the wick, pointing the wick of the candle away from your body. You are dressing the candle so that you are moving the energy outward and away from yourself. When you are finished, you can place the candle in its candle holder.

Now we want to do the same thing with the white candle. What are you calling into your life? Name it and carve that into your white candle and then dress the white candle with oil. Begin at the wick and pull the oil towards you, down to the base of the candle. You’re pulling this energy towards you and grounding it into your life at the base of the candle. When you are done dressing that candle, place it in its candle holder.

Next you are going to position both candles, the black on your left and the white on your right, on your fireproof surface. Preferably in a cast-iron pan or on a metal sheet pan, anything that will catch embers as they fall. A fireproof workspace is very important for this spell! Do not do this on any surface that could be damaged or catch fire!

Take your cord and tie it to each of the candles so that there is a visual representation of the cord tying these two together. Try not to make the cord too long, again, you want all of this to fit on your fireproof surface with room to spare.

When you have your candles tied together, you will light each, beginning with the black and then the white, while saying the following incantation:

As the cord is cut and the candles burned, I cut all ties with that for which I yearned.

I release what no longer serves me.

As I will it, so shall it be.

Now we are going to burn the petition papers. Begin with the banishing or releasing petition paper. Roll the petition into a tight tube and give it a little roll between your palms to help it stay in that tube shape and then light one end on fire in the black candle and set the tube upright on your fireproof surface. I find that this is the easiest way to get a petition paper to burn cleanly.

When that petition paper is fully burned to ash you’re going to do the same thing with your attracting petition paper. Roll it into a tube, give it a little roll between your palms to help it stay in that tube shape and then light one end and set the petition paper upright on your fireproof surface to let it burn.

Now, you’re going to want to let your candles burn down completely. At some point during the burning, the cord will catch fire, symbolizing the burning away of the energetic tie between you and whatever it is that you are releasing. You must stay near your candles until they finish burning!

Take this time to journal, to meditate, to focus on what you’re releasing, feel any emotions that come up. This is a deep energetic clearing process that is happening. Please do not just wander off and watch television or ignore the magic that you are doing. The more focus that you can put into this releasing process, the better.

Once the cord burns, you can switch your focus to what you are calling in, the habits and behaviors that you want to instill in your life, the kinds of people that you want to attract. Whatever it is that you’re pulling into your life, you can switch your focus and begin to meditate and journal on those things.

When both candles burn themselves out, I want you to immediately take everything and throw it away in the trash outside of your home. If this means you have to drive to a dumpster somewhere, do that. Do not put this in the trash inside of your home. Remember, we are trying to release something. We want it to get away from us, so take all of the wax remnants, the ash, any little bits that might be left over, and throw them away outside of your home.

Moving forward, you can refocus your energy and attention towards this new positive energy that you want to create in your life. Whatever new habits, positive relationships, or fresh starts you’re calling in, you can move forward without the energetic ties and residue that have been holding you back.

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